pichi wrote: Sat Jun 20, 2026 4:44 am
Email absolutely! I'm a bit of a yapper if I'm honest, and I struggle to tone down my messages in an effort to fit into an instant message format. I also like to take time to look over what I've written, rewrite certain parts, shift them around a paragraph or two, check for spelling and such. Email allows me to do all of this, with the added benefit of making me wait for a reply. I think a lot of people are so used to the instant gratification that comes with instant messaging, and have forgotten how nice it can feel to experience delayed gratification. I do love reaching out to people and inquiring if they'd like to become penpals, and we keep in regular contact to this day! Some email once a week, some once a month, I enjoy the space between because it gives me time to collect talking points too!
Forums like this one allow me a lot of the same breathing room that I appreciate from emails! It just feels a bit less personal compared to emails, which is why it's my second fav.
BAHHHHH THIS IS WHAT SCARES ME WITH EMAILS
cuz I would like to be email penpals with peeps but my fear is that even if they have ther email on their site, its not there so we can email casually its there for like, professional reasons. And I am ALSO a yapper, and im worried that people wont like that. But I agree, i mean i enjoy emails and dms cuz they are a lot more personal and like about talking to one person vs a group that could rang from 60 people to 1000 or more. Like i wanna yap and to be yapped back to TvT
How do you not overthink sending the email in the first place dude??? I spent like 3 days overthinking sending a simple dm being like "hey whats up" to this random person on this other forum how do you not do that????
Onio wrote: Fri Jun 26, 2026 4:58 am
Chatrooms are fun, for sure, but there's something about a forum that feels more substantial. I've enjoyed how responding to posts have me sitting and reflecting longer on what I have to say and weighing whether my input is really adding anything to the conversation. Chatrooms don't place that kind of pressure on me, two or three words are acceptable in a chatroom. A two or three word response in a forum context, on the other hand, just feels spammy. So this has certainly challenged me to think more about what's worth adding and if it's something I genuinely want to say, a challenge that has proven to be rewarding!
I agree, i've been enjoying taking more time to think and write a lengthy response. It makes communication even more genuine, I feel. I also can think of things to talk about and make posts for it without worrying about being obnoxious interrupting an ongoing chat, i can post and people can read and reply when they can, it's pretty nice and takes a lot of the pressure
Chatrooms are cool but at times they can be overwhelming, or just tedious even xD
Seeing how everything worked here in the forum makes me more excited to push the comment feature in my microblog page lol thank you for making this experiment Onio, I hope it can stay alive for a long time
Onio wrote: Fri Jun 26, 2026 4:58 am
It's been little over a month since the forum opened, and the rate of growth has been very nice. The rate of membership applications were fair but steady, the posting has been slower-paced but consistent, overall activity not exploding but not at all dead, and I think that's exactly the best middle ground a newbie admin like myself could have hoped for.
While I haven't yet spent as much time interacting here as I imagined I would in the beginning, I've found that the time I spend posting feels very pleasant. I really like being able to return to a topic days later, I like that I don't miss out on a conversation just because I wasn't there when it happened, and I like that I can add my thoughts to a topic (like this one!) days or weeks down the road without it feeling out of context.
Chatrooms are fun, for sure, but there's something about a forum that feels more substantial. I've enjoyed how responding to posts have me sitting and reflecting longer on what I have to say and weighing whether my input is really adding anything to the conversation. Chatrooms don't place that kind of pressure on me, two or three words are acceptable in a chatroom. A two or three word response in a forum context, on the other hand, just feels spammy. So this has certainly challenged me to think more about what's worth adding and if it's something I genuinely want to say, a challenge that has proven to be rewarding!
I'm also glad to have a place where I can be privately messaged by you guys
Thank you guys for participating in this forum experiment And a special thank you to the generous donor from a couple weeks ago, whose wish is to remain anonymous, and who shall henceforth be referred to as The Forum Patron of '26. I've decided the appropriate use of this donation is to fund hosting costs for this forum for the next 7 months, so I can say fairly confidently that the future of this forum is secured for at least the rest of this year! Thank you, Forum Patron of '26!
YAYYYYYY hehe i love this forum. your right i think the balance of it being not dead but not active 24/7 is great. it feels a lot more chill than somewhere like melonland which is a bit too active and fast paced for me. also its nice cuz it allows me to participate in this community if im not in the mood for fast paced chat hehe
Glitchy/Zô
And a special thank you to the generous donor from a couple weeks ago, whose wish is to remain anonymous, and who shall henceforth be referred to as The Forum Patron of '26. I've decided the appropriate use of this donation is to fund hosting costs for this forum for the next 7 months, so I can say fairly confidently that the future of this forum is secured for at least the rest of this year! Thank you, Forum Patron of '26!